Toni at the Christmas party

"I like your hair" I blurted out after she took my drink order. 

"Thanks I used to keep it short but then I went to Portugal and wanted to grow it like a wild woman."

Omg I like her.

The 5-minute friendship grew from there. She, serving at my friend's office party. Me, the +1 with nothing to lose and everything to gain with this friendly stranger.

We both have 2 emerging adult children, both love to travel, both enjoy the brief interactions you get when when serving. Even if I last worked as a caterer 25 years ago. 

I am convinced that 5-minute friendships are no different than that. Hi, how can I help you, here you are, you're welcome, see you next time. It's a pattern I have grown to love, especially as I struggle with some "real friendships" and the expectations that come with same.

I waved across the room to Toni as I left the party. Me, the last one to leave even though I knew no one. I'll see her next year, for 5 minutes more.